Throughout a teaching day, how many people do you come in contact with?
LOADS, right? Parents, admin, students, and colleagues. LOTS OF DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES.
You click well with some personalities. Other personalities, not so much.
Here’s the issue; your energy is vital. Every personality that drains, frustrates, irritates, and upsets you depletes your precious teacher energy.
We can’t have that! We need you at the TIP TOP of your teaching game.
Story Time With SJT:
I worked with a secretary once that rubbed me the wrong way. She was always grumpy, frowning, and in a constant disgruntled state. She didn’t like me. Her dislike went beyond the occasional forgetting to turn in my attendance OR locking my keys in my classroom. I don’t know why she didn’t like me. Her personality just didn’t mesh with mine. It was horrible. I DREADED going to the office. When I interacted with her, I always wondered if she was mad at me. Thinking about her consumed my thoughts. Her presence walking down the hall was like a hovering dark cloud. She interfered with my teaching happiness and wellness. The more I worried about her, the more frazzled I felt.
Morale Of The Story:
In order for me to survive the school year, I had to come up with a plan of action. She wasn’t the only personality I struggled with, and wouldn’t be the last.
Here’s what helped defuse the situation.
I focused in on my core values as a teacher. Why do I teach? What is my purpose? Why do I value being a teacher? Why am I a talented teacher?
I reflected on these questions and then made a list of my answers. The list made me feel empowered. Like I stood for something. I had direction. I had purpose.
As a teacher you must put your teaching core values and principles ABOVE negative personalities.
It’s not about he said, she said, ego, pride, petty disagreements, and worry. When I confidently knew my purpose, it didn’t matter which personality crossed my path. Personalities no longer shook me to my core. My core was stronger.
When I interacted with the secretary, I’d repeat my teaching purpose silently to myself. No matter what she said OR did, I knew my worth. I could react to her with kindness and love because I was pulling energy from a never ending source of purposeful strength.
I Challenge You
Get clear on your teaching purpose and principles. When personalities cross your path, stand strong. Your principles and purpose matter WAY MORE than other people’s personalities.
Always move yourself towards what is good for you, your students, and the benefits of the school as a whole. That’s what we’re all working towards right? These principles matter, not petty personality conflicts.
Are there challenging personalities at your school? What do you do? Please leave a comment below.